Encourage Your Child For Fair Play

“Victory isn’t defined by wins or losses. It is defined by effort. If you can truthfully say, ‘I did the best I  could, I gave everything I had,’ then you’re a winner.”
Wolfgang Schadler

Whatever a child learns in his childhood, it leaves a permanent impression on his memory. The first lessons begin at home, from parents, by observing and following people who are in the immediate environment. Hence, parents need to be doubly careful when raising children on what kind of a home environment they are providing their children.

Every child has a natural inclination towards playing. Playing is the best way of learning and children can happily do this for hours. Playing is not only beneficial for the growth of children but it also provides an opportunity for the parents and teachers to induce positive child behavior.

positive child behavior

Playing is not only beneficial for the growth of children but it also provides an opportunity for the parents and teachers to induce positive child behavior.

As the child grows up, she learns to compete while participating in games. This is the most opportune time for parents to step in and motivate their children towards developing a sense of fair play.

Fair play is as important as the rules and skills in a game. It instills a sense of healthy competition in children that teaches them to accept failures gracefully, appreciate the winner open-heartedly, and not opt for any unfair means just for the sake of victory.

Here are some of the parenting tips to motivate children towards fair play:

Inspire But Don’t Push

Inspire your children to win but do not make it a mandate. Do not let your children realize that you are disappointed with their failure. Help them understand that willpower and the courage to participate is as important as a win.

Teach Them To Accept Failure Gracefully

Not everybody who participates can be a winner. A win is an outcome of so many different factors. If somebody loses today, it does not mean he can never win. Inspire your child to accept failures gracefully. Help your children develop the spirit to learn from previous mistakes and use these lessons to breakthrough to success in the future.

Never Try Unfair Means For His Win

Sometimes to make children win anyhow, parents resort to unfair means. This is critically harmful for your child’s development and growth. If the child gets into the habit of using unfair means, he will never grow as a fighter and survivor. He will learn to adopt unethical shortcuts as a road to success and will not realize or understand the value of hard work, discipline, and practice.

parenting children

Help your children learn about the importance of team spirit


 The Importance Of Team Work And Cooperation

Help your children learn about the importance of team spirit.

Inspirational videos that talk about goals, success, team spirit and motivation are a great tool for instilling the wisdom of achieving success through effort, dedication, self belief and fair means.

Advertisements

Raising Children to Make Good Friends

Has your child been cringing away from being social lately? Has he stopped talking about his friends or bringing them home? Has he been keeping to his room when you have guests over?

Don’t make the mistake of ignoring this as shyness or inhibition. This sort of child behavior can be a wake-up alarm for you.

If your child is facing difficulty in interacting with people or making new friends, it might lead to your child becoming a loner.

motivate your child

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children. If your child is introvert and hesitates in building and developing friendships at school and play, it is a time for you to help and motivate your child to make friends.

Though kindergarten and grade-school facilitate socialization among children, primary education always begins at home. Take note of some useful parenting advice on how you can help your child in making friends:

Encourage your children to share their experiences

Strike a friendly discussion with your children while you drive him home from school. It is good practice to start with your experiences through the day rather than asking him about his day. It will encourage your child to join the conversation with his share of experiences.

Help her take up a sport or her favorite activity

Offer a multitude of opportunities for your child to interact and socialize with other children. Participating in team sports and activities such as pottery, art, drama or dance class provides ample opportunities to make friends with children of same interests and preferences.

Keep an eye on him while he interacts with other kids

child-development

Offer a multitude of opportunities for your child to interact and socialize with other children.

It is very important for you to watch your children when they start developing friendships. Make sure he is interacting with the good, well brought up children and learning positive discipline.

Also notice any signs of aggressiveness, bullying or depression and try to nip it in the bud. It is your responsibility to help your child make good friends and avoid bad company.

Make him aware of potential fears and concerns

Prepare your child to deal with any potential fears or concerns during the course of making new friends at school or play. Tell him not to trust strangers.

Tell him to stay away from peers who do drugs or indulge in unfair practices.You can also advice him not to accept anything from the people who look suspicious.

Watching motivational videos and reading books

Help him develop the habit of watching motivational videos and reading books. Suggest him books with colorful images and social message. Read him friendship tales that talk about the importance of having good friends.

4 Effective Practices to Help Your Child Concentrate

Does your child find it difficult to concentrate while doing his home work? Does your child show  expressions of sleepiness when he is asked to concentrate on studying?

Your child may be suffering from poor concentration.

As children begin to develop curiosity about the world around them, they try to find the cause and effect of the happenings that take place in their surroundings. They have so many new things to explore that it becomes difficult for them to concentrate on a repeated affair for a longer time.

As children tend to be distracted with every new piece of excitement and wonder that comes their way, its your responsibility to help them concentrate on tasks that shape positive behavior in them.

parenting tips

Help your children in setting a daily routine and adhering to it.

Here’s some important parenting advice to help your child concentrates:

Set a routine

The habits developed in childhood stay forever. Help your children in setting a daily routine and adhering to it. Take care of factors like age and comfort of the child while setting routines so that he does not feel overburdened.

Make sure he follows a regular routine starting with waking up, having breakfast, going to school as well as play time, study time and dinner. Once he learns to stick to a routine, it will be easier for him to concentrate.

Provide favorable atmosphere

The home atmosphere plays a significant role in helping children concentrate in the tasks they are assigned with. For example, your child should not be exposed to any type of external sounds – TV, mobile phones or music – when she studies or does her homework. Don’t disturb her or call her while she completes her assignments.

It is a good practice to allocate reasonable time for a particular task and make sure your child adheres to it. It will instill wisdom in children and prevent their mind from being distracted towards other unproductive activities.

Encourage him for physical activity

swimming happy kids

A sound mind lives in a sound body

“A sound mind lives in a sound body”

Concentration is a state of healthy mind and body. Encourage your child to involve in physical exercise and other outdoor sports such as swimming, rugby, baseball, etc. It will help him stay active, healthy and mentally fit.

Provide proper nutrition

Children require complete nutrition for their healthy growth and development. Give them a diet rich in proteins, vitamins, minerals and iron and other vital nutrients required for their normal growth. Make sure your child’s diet does not contain excess sugar or sugar substitutes as it may cause “hyper” behavior and mood swings.

Parenting Advice to Curb the Habit of Stealing in Kids

Good Parenting

Strictly make your child understand that stealing is wrong and you would not forgive it.

Your child is obedient, friendly, does good in the school, puts dishes in the sink and you wonder why does your child steals?

Having sticky fingers is not so unusual in kids of 5 to 6 year old. Generally children of 5 to 6 years begin to develop conscience at that stage and at times they find it tough to resist their temptation to steal something that they want. However stealing is not always an impulsive decision. Important to note is that as parents you should not panic.

Many children steal because they think that there is nothing wrong about it. Some steal because they want to get attention.

The question now arises is what you should do as parents when you find out that your child has sticky fingers. You need to first find out that whether it has happened for the first time or your child has a pattern of stealing.

Strictly make your child understand that stealing is wrong and you would not forgive it. Even if your son steals a candy from a shop, make him return it. In case, if he has already eaten it, take him to the shop and make him apologize. Going to the shopkeeper might be embarrassing for the child but this would send a clear message to the child that it is an unforgivable act.

Don’t engage in punishing your child physically. This would only worsen the situation. As a parent, you need to be patient and talk to your child gently and yet firmly that you won’t allow it. Screaming or slapping your child won’t solve the problem. You need to figure out the root cause and nip it in the bud.

Parenting advice: Consider it an opportunity

Instead of considering stealing as a problem, take it as an opportunity to teach your child about right and wrong. You can take it as a possibility to instill the good family values of honesty and integrity in your child.

If your child steals just to fit in with the peers or overcome inferiority complex, you can provide a solution like giving allowance to the child for doing some simple household chores.

Most importantly, watch your own behavior. Do what you preach. For instance, if you are mistakenly given more items in less money at a store, return the items to the store owner in the presence of the child. Watching parents perform such actions go a long way in teaching kids about moral values.

Spend quality time with your child, take him/her to a good children’ motivational movie. Or watch an inspirational video with your child. Reading good books that teach about good values and watching a motivating video daily with your child will go a long way in building good character, instilling family values in kids, gain self-esteem and strengthen your child’s development.

If stealing still persists, you can take the help of a counselor or a therapist.

Parenting Advice – Help Your Child Deal with School Refusal

“As much as 28% of school aged children in America refuse school at some point during their education. School refusal behavior is as common among boys as girls. While any child aged 5–17 may refuse to attend school, most youths who refuse are 10–13 years old. Peaks in school refusal behavior are also seen at times of transition such as 5–6 and 14–15 years as children enter new schools.”

                                 – NYU CHILD STUDY CENTER 

Does your child often wake up with a headache, sore throat or stomachache especially during school tests or after weekends and holidays?

Then these may be the symptoms of school refusal – a condition when a child develops school phobia or fear of attending school.

Instill Positive Discipline

Parents can play a crucial role in inspiring children to deal with school phobia

A school-goer may refuse the school to avoid anxiety or depression caused by school-related objects or situations; to escape academic performance situations including test-taking or oral presentations; or  to seek pleasure in activities outside school.

Parenting Help: How to Instill Positive Discipline

Parents can play a crucial role in inspiring children to deal with school phobia. First of all, encourage your child to attend school regularly as missing school elevates anxiety rather than alleviating it.

The following tips can help:

  • Increase the exposure to school slowly and gradually in small degrees. Make sure he feels comfortable every time he attends school. Eventually, he starts realizing that there is nothing to fear about the school.
  • Understand the feelings and fears that is keeping your child far from the school and find ways to help her get rid of them. For example, if your child skips school due to inferiority complex, boost her confidence and help her realize that she is no less important than others.
  • Highlight the positive aspects of attending school such as making new friends, playing the favorite game, learning an interesting subject, and becoming successful.
  • Meet with your child’s teacher or school guidance counselor to induce positivity and wisdom in children.
  • Encourage the hobbies and interests your child find fun and solace in. It not only keeps the child engaged but also builds his self-confidence.
  • Establish a support system for your child within family and friend-circle. It allows the child to discuss her problems and reasons of anxiety hence helping you find an effective way to deal with the same.

Teaching Kids the Significance of Humility


“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

Parents teach their kids to work hard, to study more to achieve success, to learn new things to be competent in life.

Parents teach their kids to work hard, to study more to achieve success, to learn new things to be competent in life.

― C.S. Lewis
Parents teach their kids to work hard, to study more to achieve success, to learn new things to be competent in life. But in the race of imparting too many skills to kids; parents tend to forget that teaching children about the value of humility is just as essential as inspiring children to be successful.

Let go of ‘me’ attitude

Instill in your children the habit of sharing right from the beginning. You need to teach kids to drop the “Me” attitude. Else when this “I, Me, Myself” attitude will turn into selfishness in kids, you won’t even realize.
If you are a mother of two kids, motivate your elder child to share his toys, clothes with the younger kid and encourage the younger one to help his older sibling with the chores.
Encourage kids to participate in charity work

Don’t just preach. Lead by example. Take your children to a orphanage, a homeless shelter in your locality or charity events. Let kids donate their old clothes or toys to the less fortunate fact, take kids to the charity events as well.

Don’t think that your kids may get depressed seeing people living in unsatisfactory conditions. You run the risk of spoiling your kids, if you keep them in luxury all the time. When your kids will witness you helping not-so-fortunate people, it will develop humility and empathy in kids.
Encourage kids to be grateful
Parenting help: Teach kids to learn to be grateful for everything. There are thousands of inspirational videos that inspire kids about the significance of gratitude. Encourage kids to say “Please” and “Thank you”.
Parenting children does not mean imposing values and ethics on the kids without explaining to them their true significance.

Parenting children does not mean imposing values and ethics on the kids without explaining to them their true significance.

If your child has scored brownie points in a project, explain to him how his teachers have played a role in his achievement and that he must acknowledge their contribution.
Remember to teach your children to apologize when they make a mistake. Owningup to a mistake will help them build confidence and a strong sense of ownership and responsibility to do each task with energy, determination and effort.

Parenting children does not mean imposing values and ethics on the kids without explaining to them their true significance. Youcannot teach humility to kids by bullying or scolding them. The best parenting advice is be a role model for your children and they will follow in your footsteps.

 

Parenting Help to Deal with Child Tantrums

Some children throw tantrum to show their disagreement, anger or frustration in response to a particular situation or decision, reaction of their parents. It is considered as a common behavioral trait to some extent. Many parents adopt either a dormant or a dominant approach for dealing with tantrums, but both these approaches can be harmful for your child’s healthy growth and development.

This parenting advice focuses on how to deal with tantrums in children:

Control your anger while dealing with child temper tantrums

You are apt to lose your temper in response to your child’s tantrum, it happens often and with most parents. It may evoke you to act stupid and commit mistakes, which is an inappropriate way to deal with child tantrums.

In such situations, you should tell your child, “though we are also not pleased with your anger or defiance; we are not treating you badly and giving you time and opportunity to bring improvement in your behavior.” A calm child can understand and learn things better.

Remember, in any condition children should never be deprived of love and care. A daily dose of affection and sense of belongingness is prescribed albeit with some strictness (only if required).

Never insult your child

Let your children express their feelings – pleasant or unpleasant. Don’t start punishing or criticizing straightway if they display indecent behavior that includes tantrums also. According to some research studies, insulting the children encourages negativity in them and they start to feel neglected and dejected leading to a rift in child parent relationships, which never heals.

Try to understand the fact that children tantrums are normal up to some age. Don’t make the things worse by overreacting or taking it too seriously.

Compliment and reward the desired behavior


Promise your child a chocolate and you will see him cleaning his room. Tempt your kid with a new video game and you will see him finding solace in books.

Rewards always work in childhood and the good habits developed in lieu of rewards accompany your child for rest of her life. Make sure you begin the reward system at an appropriate age. Don’t wait to the stage when he starts using other means like crying or throwing tantrums to meet his demands.